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When was the last time you had a really good “ugly” cry? I am talking about the cry that is full of hopelessness, confusion, disappointment, anger, and the unconscious desire to be healed.

This cry for help usually happens when we are ready for change but there are so many obstacles in our way. This darkness that alludes us is our Shadow Self and it comes bearing a message, “In order to move forward, you must overcome yourself!”

What Exactly Is Your Shadow Self?

Simply put, our Shadow is all the parts of ourselves that we TRY to deny. It consists of all the “negative”, “dark”, and “bad” parts of our personality that go unchecked and unloved.  We deny our Shadow because we believe these parts of ourselves are not acceptable to family, friends, and society.  Unfortunately, when parts of ourselves are not acceptable to others they are not acceptable to us. Western society, in so many ways, has made us believe that true balance only comes when you chase happiness, but true balance and happiness is birth out of understanding and accepting all parts of yourself.

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Let’s just face it: if you are going to live your best life in 2018, you are going to have to learn to accept your Shadow Self.

Personally, my shadow is full of a lot of self-doubt and uncertainty. 99.99% of the time I am unsure about what I am doing, but when my Shadow comes up I think myself into a place of hopelessness and despair.  I question WHAT IS and I lose faith in myself.  My Shadow is the part of me who wishes she had more validation and support as a child, and that is only 1 aspect of my Shadow.  Trust me: there are many more and we all have them.

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There are going to be times in 2018 where you question your very existence on this planet because that is what your Shadow Self makes you do. If you want to know how to make these dark periods a bit easier keep reading.

3 Things You Must Remember When You Are Dealing With Your Shadow

1. There is NOTHING wrong with you!

First of all, YOU ARE AMAZING! There is certain programming that you have to overcome if you are going to live your best life--- you need to let go of the idea that you are mediocre and less deserving of all of your desires.  Life is a game- show up and tap into your Star Player. Oprah can’t be the only one winning!

2. It is OKAY not to be okay.

You are not supposed to be floating around with a halo hanging over your head 24/7.  If you are feeling any emotions that are less than happy, it is okay.  Life happens. You aren’t a robot- you weren’t designed to feel 1 thing all the time. Bask in those lower emotions because they will bring you so much insight.

3. ONLY you can validate your emotions.

Don’t expect your best friend to understand how you feel. Don’t expect your significant other to read your mind. Don’t expect anyone to tell you everything will be okay when you feel the total opposite. You shouldn’t ignore your emotions or your feelings. It is simple: don’t expect others to show up for you when you refuse to show up for yourself.

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When you make peace with your Shadow, you make peace with all parts of yourself. Don’t walk into 2018 weighed down by the “darker” parts of yourself. Love those parts like you love the light because they are full of magic too!

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